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You Will Experience Your Love Desires: 3 Universal Truths That Prove This, Part II

IMG_2582I know an amazing woman named Brooke. She came to one of my workshops where I gave the homework assignment of writing on Post-It notes, “The Universe Has My Back,” and sticking them all around the house – as a constant reminder that we are always loved, supported and guided. Brooke did so, even though her kids teased her. But that didn’t stop her because she was soothed by the daily reminder that, yes indeed, the Universe really does have her back.

Today, Brooke sent me a photo of a miniature-sized Adirondack Chair with the words written on it, “The Universe Has Your Back Brooke” (see photo). Her daughter, 14-year-old Jill created it at her camp and sent this photo to her Mom.

Two weeks ago, in my blog, You Will Experience Your Love Desires: 3 Universal Truths That Prove This, Part I, I gave you 3 Universal Truths that prove that your love desires will actualize. Let’s explore, then, why you haven’t yet created them and how to unblock this loveless and vicious cycle.

Universal Truth #1: You have a Higher Self that guides every moment of your existence.

Are you tuned in to that guidance? Every thought you have is like a hypnotic suggestion, therefore, what are you thinking when you think about love? What are your true beliefs about love? If you are single, you may have a belief that love is difficult to attract, or, that you have to give up something (like yourself) to have love. Or maybe you don’t believe that you are good enough for love. If you are already in a relationship, then maybe you believe that you shouldn’t fully trust because you’ll just get hurt or dumped. Therefore, the question to ask yourself is, are your thoughts hijacking your love intention?

 Tip to tune into your own higher guidance: Write a list of every complaint you have about your love life (or lack thereof). One by one, take each complaint and say the opposite. In other words, turn it into an affirmation that you’ll repeat for the next 30 days. For example, if your complaint is that it’s difficult to find love. Switch it to the opposite by writing, “It’s easy to find love.” Go ahead and turn each complaint into a positive and reap the benefits of a rewired and positive mind.

 Universal Truth #2: Time exists only in this moment.

Having a grudge about something that happened in your past or having ill feelings about someone is the fastest way to sabotage your good intentions for love. Also, focusing on the future that’s not even here yet is often not helpful. For example, one of the fastest ways that women sabotage a date is by immediately deciding whether the guy is marriage material or not. Ladies, please stop that because it takes you right out of the present moment and produces anxiety for you and your date.

Tip to stay present: Do what Brooke did. Stay calm and present by reminding yourself that the Universe has your back. Go ahead and write that on at least 20 Post-It notes and stick them around your home. They will be your constant reminder to stay present, relax and enjoy your life as it is.

Universal Truth #3: Having a desire means that it will actualize.

Most people doubt this and try to use their brains to figure out what to do instead of being with what is. People tend to stick with their bad habits of negative self-talk and behaviors.

Tip to have what you desire: Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, be grateful for what you do have.

I’d like to thank Brooke for sharing her daughter’s beautiful creation and for reminding us all that your love desire will actualize if you let your Higher Self guide, love and support you.

You Will Experience Your Love Desires: 3 Universal Truths That Prove This, Part I

You Are You

When the word “love” comes up in conversation, usually all kinds of judgments are made. Do any of the following statements ring true for you?

  • Finding love is difficult.
  • I’ll never find love.
  • I’m scared of losing love.
  • I’m scared of having love.
  • Why won’t she love me just the way I am?
  • Why won’t he love me the way I want to be loved?

The word “desire” conjures up some negative responses, as well:

  • My desires are never fulfilled.
  • Desires remain just that – desires.
  • My desires are unattainable.
  • I don’t know how to achieve my desires.

Now, put these two anxiety-producing words together, “love desires,” and most people are ready to throw up their hands and completely give up.

Ready to end your misery? Good, because I have some great news that will give you tremendous hope about your love desires.

Universal Truth #1: You have a Higher Self that guides every moment of your existence.

We all do. This is the part of you that actually is you, this is, the real you.

There are many names for this loving guide of yours: Higher Self, I Am Presence, True Self, Authentic Self, God Self, Divine Spark, Infinite Being Self, to name a few. Your Highest Self sees everything, has the whole picture and loves you unconditionally. What a wonderful existence life becomes when one regularly tunes into this inner wisdom and loving support.

Universal Truth #2: Time exists only in this moment.

There is no past – its already gone. Your past is only showing you what you’ve survived. Therefore, your past does not exist, that is, unless you keep bringing it back into this present moment. There is no future – its not even here yet. There is only presence – this moment.

Universal Truth #3: Having a desire means that it will actualize.

That’s right, the fact that you want something is your Highest Self  letting you know that it will materialize in your physical world.

My good friend, Thomas Bahler, who wrote and produced with Quincy Jones, Michael Jackson and many other legends, wrote an incredible book titled, What You Want Wants You. These words are not only accurate, but are also another way to convey this message:

What your Higher Self sees as truth shows up to you as ‘desire’. The moment you experience desire, energetically speaking, it’s already created.  Therefore, having a desire means that you will actualize it in your physical world.

Isn’t that cool?! That’s like living with a fortuneteller who has 100% accuracy, 100% of the time!

Inhale 3 deep breaths to take this all in. Ahhhhhhh! Feels good to know this, right?

In next week’s blog, we will explore the reasons why you’re not yet experiencing your love desires and how to actually achieve them.

Until then, thank your Highest Self  for showing you the exciting life that you are creating!




3 Secrets To Honoring The Struggle

Today’s guest blogger, Jennifer Urezzio shares her wisdom in dealing with your own personal struggles by looking into your soul to change your perspective. I hope you find it as enlightening as I have. Enjoy!


– Tamara

3 Secrets To Honoring The Struggle

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I don’t know about you, but sometimes, the struggle is so unbearable that I don’t want to be in it…I want it gone and gone NOW! Isn’t it true that we judge our struggles because it might seem, in comparison to others, no big deal? Yet, when you’re in the thick of it, it sure feels like a big deal.

Reluctance in honoring your struggle and unwillingness to seeing the blessings in your situation actually creates more discomfort, upset and pain. And if that’s not bad enough, this energy gets stuck in your body and generates even more chaos in your life. For example, this often happens with not accepting and honoring the grief process because one becomes afraid of feeling and honoring their pain. The energy of this pain then gets stuck in the lungs, which can cause respiratory issues.

Honestly, its tough to embrace the difficult times, but when you do, it really does turn your struggles into blessings.

Jennifer’s 3 Secrets To Honoring The Struggle:
  1. Ask to be shown the blessings in this situation. It may be a challenge, but it certainly helps to make a declaration. Here’s a statement I suggest making; I honor this struggle and experience the blessings in this situation!
  1. Have a conversation with your Soul. Talk to your soul by holding your hand over your heart with the intention to speak to your central self – that part of you that has never been hurt and knows no fear. You can start with the simple question; What do I need to understand about this situation to honor myself and to heal?
  1. Remind yourself that the Divine has your back. This very practical advice (although it might not feel practical) is about you feeling the comfort of the Divine and knowing that the Divine has your back. You can do this by asking to feel the sensation of being loved and protected by the Divine (note: your mind is going to try and veto this, but just allow your body and the Divine to take over). If you have difficulty in doing this, then get help by a spiritual practitioner, like myself. I suggest you connect to this feeling a couple times a day during periods of struggle.

Thank you Jennifer for your words of wisdom. Its wonderful to know that we are not alone in our pain and struggles and that we can turn to our own heart for connection and comfort.

Jennifer Urezzio is a master intuitive and the founder and spiritual director of Know Soul’s Language. Soul Language is a way to consciously connect with your Soul that was received through Divine Guidance. Understanding your Soul Languages allows you to access your own Soul’s guidance to accept your value, be more confident, have more impact and grow into a stronger leader.




From Cancer To Freedom — Surgery Day For My Soul Mate And Soul

freedom towerI dedicate this blog to all of our friends, family, colleagues, clients and the people we never even met from prayer and meditation groups, who blessed us constantly with their support, healing energy and love. Because of you, we never felt alone for one second and we couldn’t have done it without you. From the bottom our hearts, thank you.

As I wait for the surgeon to finish operating on my husband, removing the cancerous mass from his neck, I look out of the large window of a waiting room at Beth Israel Hospital in New York City. What I see before me is a powerful image that stirs my heart in the most painful yet wondrous way. What I am viewing is the exact location that my Beloved may have been exposed to carcinogens. How ironic that before me, standing tall and ominous, some 20 blocks away, is The Freedom Tower. More than 13 years before, my husband went to Ground Zero, a firefighter eager to help, to serve and to save those thousands of New Yorkers affected on that unforgettable event of 9/11.

This gorgeous and unusually shaped building represents the death and rebirth of New York and of America. As it reaches high up in the air, I see how it represents freedom from fear, giving us hope to dream of a future of peace and love. I think to myself, ‘Isn’t that what freedom really is – absence of fear?’

I stood there, reflecting on the experience my husband and I have shared since that early November day when he received the scary words, “you have cancer”.

As I gazed upon the site that used to be the Twin Towers, I knew deep down in my heart that I am responsible for every bit of what I have been experiencing, not only with my husband but even with 9/11 and beyond. I remember the words of a wise therapist who once said, “If there is a problem, there you are, so release yourself by saying, “I’m sorry” (for all of your erroneous thoughts, beliefs, actions, patterns, etc).

With tears rolling down my cheeks and with sincerity in my heart, I begin to apologize to my Divine Self and husband for every cancerous thought or action I ever had toward myself, to him or anyone else. I say “I’m sorry” for all things I didn’t do and could have; for all the things I did do and shouldn’t have; for all the times I didn’t speak my truth and didn’t allow others to speak theirs; for all the times I judged myself or others; for all the times I ever believed the illusion of being a victim; for all the times that I blamed myself or others for my pain or for their pain. I am sorry for believing the “stories” of my past that separated me from others and from my own Highest Truth. 

DavidThe more I repented and asked my Highest Self for forgiveness, the more I felt cleansed and free. A softening was occurring. I sensed more than ever my soul being ready to spread its wings and break free from the chains of doubt and fear. I released my past with compassion, rapture and excitement, feeling renewed in courage and strength to reclaim my life and burn with spiritual love, which replaced my fear of losing my Beloved soul mate.

It’s been 3 weeks post surgery and after 2 months of chemotherapy, 35 radiation treatments, months of worry, stress and exhaustion, we finally hear those wondrous words:

“You are cancer free and in full remission!”

Wow! What relief, what joy, how blessed we are to not only have experienced our lives and marriage exactly the way we have, but to then make it through to the other side. We feel victorious. We ARE victorious!

When you look up and see how far reaching The Freedom Tower actually is, it’s impossible not to feel hope and a glimmer of excitement for the future of true freedom. I will continue my practice of erasing my negative beliefs and outcomes by saying “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you”. I will do this for myself, for my husband and family and for the planet because one day, I know that we will experience a world without a single cancerous thought, word or deed.

Paradise, here we come.