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Getting On Santa’s ‘Naughty List’ With The Art Of Sexy Holiday Flirting

The Holidays are a perfect time for sexy flirting. Whether single or partnered, you can have fun getting on Santa’s ‘naughty’ list by performing the very effective art of sexy flirting.

Men love flirty gestures. They feel admired and get the validation they need to approach you. Don’t think that flirting is just for the singles, though. It adds so much excitement and pleasure for partners, as well. It’s easy for couples to get into a rut and forget the fun and spicy side of their relationship, especially when trying to raise a family and hold down challenging careers. Flirting, smiling, being daring and trying something new releases some wonderful ‘happy hormones’ and can have some very positive and amazing results, so don’t hold back.

Flirting, however, takes guts and confidence. It means you have to be light-hearted and open to fun and new experiences. Therefore, you may get nervous because you are stepping out of your routine and comfort zone. That’s OK, just take a few deep breaths and do it anyway. Trust me, your efforts will be well worth it.

For a quick and easy boost to your confidence, especially if you are painfully shy, check out my very active and fun guided meditation called Sexy Irresistible YOU, which is currently 50% off during our holiday special. Doing so will activate the powerful and magnificent sexy YOU!

Here are some hot flirting tips to ramp up your sex appeal – Ooh La La!!

Tamara’s Hot Flirty Holiday Tips For Singles:
  • At a gathering, smile at a guy that’s caught your eye from across the room, look away then smile at him again. He’ll keep his eyes glued onto you, for sure! Keep it up until he walks over to you.
  • Men are visual and love the adventure of surprise, so write a question on a cocktail napkin and slide it across the table or bar right to him. Make sure you’re smiling while doing this. Extra brownie points for making the gutsy move of winking, as well. What you write could be as simple as, “Nice shirt you’re wearing!”
  • This one definitely takes guts, but it’s very effective. Let your admiration show by using your eyes to take-in every inch of that hunk you’d like to meet from across the room. Start with their feet moving up very slowly and deliberately until you reach their eyes, at which point you smile, nod your head in approval, and give him a ‘thumbs up.’ Let him know that you like what you see. Then, count the seconds it takes for him to introduce himself to you.
  • Can’t go quite that bold, yet? Try this one then. Wherever you’re sitting, cross your legs and make sure the foot of your leg on top is pointed in the direction of that man you’re interested in meeting. Bob your foot up and down while looking in his direction. Let him know that you are “pointing” at him.
  • Spice things up and wear red. There are many shades of red, so pick one that’s perfect for your skin tone. Again, men are visual. Studies show that men find women who wear red as very attractive. Also, show a little skin with a scooped or ‘V’ neckline. Wear a dress and show your legs. Come on! It’s the Holidays, so wear something festive and slightly revealing! Don’t go too far, though. Stay away from the slutty look, unless you’re only interested in a one-night hookup.
Tamara’s Hot Flirty Holiday Tips For Couples:
  • During holiday parties, show up separately and pretend you don’t know each other. Then, pick each other up. Have fun using pick-up lines like, “Have we met before?” or “What’s your sign?”
  • Imagine your partner as your favorite dessert. While licking your lips, say to him something like, “Later, I’m going to devour you like my favorite Tiramisu!” Scrumptious!
  • At a family gathering or office party, get the juices flowing by telling your partner that you bought him a “surprise” or “naughty” gift that has to be opened in private…”later”. Wink, wink 😉
  • Tell your handsome hunk how delicious he looks, how sexy he is and how he turns you on. More winking!
  • Be alluring by playing with your hair or jewelry while listening intently to your guy.
  • Get an App for couples. Go ahead and Google “Apps for lovers” and see what’s out there for sexy and fun messaging with your special someone.
  • Ask questions you don’t normally ask, such as, “What’s your wildest fantasy? I’d like to help you fulfill it.”
  • Get ‘in the mood’ by giving a foot rub to your partner. This lowers the energy out of that stinkin’ thinkin’ head (the upper one). At the same time, tell him how much he turns you on or what you plan to do to him after the foot rub. Anticipation is a great way to get the energy flowing in the ‘right’ places.

This holiday, be sugar and spice and everything nice. Practice the art of sexy flirting to make sure you make Santa’s ‘Naughty List’ and have fun while doing it!!




HACK: Ramp Up Your Sexy

PowerSexyYou-revisedNothing is so riveting, so attractive, so exciting than to be with someone who is being their sexy self. What I mean is, they are being the very person that they truly are. They are NOT hiding who they are, not judging who they are, and not constricting who they are. They are just BEING. 

To illustrate what I’m talking about, let me tell you about the day I met my all-time favorite actress. The year was 1992 and I was working at a major NYC hospital. On this particular day, I was wearing my favorite dress (it was so in style at that time), and was having a great hair day. I knew that I looked really good. You know that feeling of confidence, that feeling of knowingness, that it’s going to be a wonderful day? Well, that’s where I was, enjoying all of me. In other words, I was in my sexy. That energy of mine filled up the rooms that I occupied that day.

So, I was in an elevator by myself and was so engrossed in a paper that I was reading, that I didn’t realize I had missed my floor – I was headed back to the lobby again. The elevator doors open and in walks 85 year old Katharine Hepburn. She wasn’t tall or glamorously dressed, in fact, she was wearing her On Golden Pond- like garb: khaki pants, white turtleneck with a large-brimmed straw hat.  It was as if she came straight from working in her garden to visit her doctor. Anyway, her energy was magnetic, confident, powerful, filled with sunshine, and well, sexy. It was only the two of us in that large elevator,

I was in the back and she was near the doors. After pushing the button for her floor, she turned around and, what happened next was one of the most memorable moments of my life. Without any words being spoken between us, she examined me like an unabashed child. First, she looked at my shoes, then looked up at my dress, then my face and hair. Then the magical moment – her twinkling eyes looked straight into mine, she smiled and tipped her hat in a gesture that said something like, “Wow! You’ve got it all, kid!”. I smiled back as if to say “thanks, I know”, the doors opened and she meandered off in her confident, sexy, her being totally her, kind of way. As if I wasn’t floating already that day, I was really floating now. What a sweet and wonderful day that was!

Now, this is what I mean by “sexy”. Both Katharine and I were being totally ourselves and loving it. We exuded our magnetic energy. Even though I use the word “sexy”, I’m not talking about sex, I’m talking about you being the YOU that you really are. You are power. And in this power, you are sexy.

Now, what would it take to bring out your sexy?  First, notice that it feels good to be you. You are power. Feel the power of you. You are unique. Feel the uniqueness of you. You are a magnetic. Feel your magnetism. You are sexy. Feel your sexy. Own who you are.

Tamara’s Tips:

Repeat these statements, like mantras, for 3 days straight.  Then, walk into a store or down the street and notice that eyes are on you – because you are in your sexy. Notice your magnetism. Notice the power of you. Enjoy being your sexy self.

  • I AM power
  • I AM unique
  • I AM magnetic
  • I AM sexy
  • I own who I AM
  • I love who I AM

“A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really sexy.”   ~ Vivica Fox