Give me an L, give me an O, give me a V, and an E. What that’s spell? LOVE! That’s right, the month of February has been about love. In week 1, we read how Brooke found her perfect Valentine – HERSELF! In week 2, all the single ladies turned Valentine’s Day into a party instead of a pity – that was fun! Week 3 was about how my love of a tree enhanced my soul. And now, what better way to end this month’s series on love than by hearing from a blogger, Amina Makhdoom, who shares her wisdom on sprinkling love onto others, even to those who don’t seemingly deserve it. Enjoy!
Speaking of love, Tamara has created an opportunity for you to travel the path to self-love and healing when you listen to the powerful 21 Days To Self-Love Meditation Experience. From Day 1 to Day 21, you are systematically taken through a transformative process of clearing all obstacles to the loving relationship of your dreams in just 3 weeks.
Sprinkling Some Love On It
The other day, I was at a hotel restaurant. The women serving us, Brenda, was not very friendly. I just smiled and was polite to her. Finally, when everyone had cleared out and it was just the two of us, I took her my plate to save her a trip to my table. As I handed her my plate, she mentioned how tired she was and how, after working a full shift, she had to go home and cook for her son, who was hosting a Super Bowl party at her house. I stood there and listened. I showed interest, asking her what she would cook, and remarked how lucky he was to have her as a mom. She smiled and shared her famous chili recipe with me. This interaction took about three minutes.
In this month of love, I invite and encourage you to be the source of love in your life. I am not sure if you have noticed this in your daily interactions, but people are in dire need of being loved. Sprinkling love can be as simple as validating who they are, appreciating something about them, giving them a hug or, like in Brenda’s case, by just listening . It does not have to be difficult or time consuming to sprinkle a little love on people. Opportunities exist everywhere!
There is so much conflict/fighting/tension/traffic/anxiety (you fill-in-the blank) out there! And, there seems to be a lack of smiles or people saying to one another, “How are you?” or “Nice to see you!”. This world needs love. So many people are fixated on being right or wrong, good or bad, better or less than. Meanwhile, there is little acknowledgement of the real truth – we are all in this together. We are one human family and what happens to one of us impacts all of us. So, instead of talking about what is wrong (and, yes, I understand there is quite a lot to say about that) why not talk about what is right? If you don’t feel ready to take on the whole world, then ‘take on’ your office mates, your family, the cashiers where you shop , or the driver in the car next to you. Go ahead and let that car merge in front of you, even though they drove all the way to the end to cut in… I know, they don’t seem like they deserve love, but the truth is, all of us have these “undeserving” moments. That is when we all need love most.
There is a common spiritual belief, as you give, so shall you receive. I have found this to be true in all areas of my life. Whatever I tend to give the most of, is what I receive the most of. When I coach people on manifesting money, the first lesson is always to give money away, because it always comes back to you… multiplied. The same is true for love. Give it away… for free.
It is not your job to determine who is deserving of your love. That is a waste of time and energy. Your job is to freely give love. Remember, sometimes the person who seems to be the least deserving of your love is the one who needs it the most. This month, stretch yourself. See if you can freely give love to 1 person, who you believe, does not deserve it. I guarantee the impact on your life will be monumental. Do you want love? Then open the door to the love you are withholding from others. When you do, you will experience love returned to you in ways you could never anticipate and in quantities you could not imagine. It is always important to love yourself first. But, even if you are not feeling like you have any love to give, I promise, if you follow the steps below, the person who will benefit the most is you! When you give love out, it exponentially boomerangs back to you.
Amina’s tips on Sprinkling love on those who need it the most:
- Make a list of 3 to 5 people who are the most important to you. Ask yourself, have I loved them to the best of my ability? Then select 1 person who you may feel is not deserving of your love or kindness.
- Do the following 5 actions for all of them in the next month:
- Be present and attentive to them in your next interaction.
- Tell them how much they mean to you and what you like, love, admire or appreciate about them.
- Offer to do something for them that would make their life easier. Ask them what that could be.
- Give them a hug or a kiss.
- Give them a hand-made or store-bought gift
- In each interaction, see if there is anything you can do to ‘sprinkle some love on it.’ For example, smile at them, look into their eyes and thank them, compliment them, say to them, “Have a nice day.” If none of these bring a smile to their face (such as, drivers on the highway) just wish them well in your heart (as you drive past).
Now, go out there and ‘sprinkle some love on it!’
May the love you give be return to you multiplied!
Thank you Amina. What a great way to improve one’s life than by giving love to those who “don’t deserve it”. I, for one, plan on ‘sprinkling some love on it’ wherever I go.
Blogger, Amina Markhdoom, is affectionately known as the Sunshine Manifester because of her ability to easily materialize her sincere hopes and wishes.
Thank you. This is a great article. It inspires me and motivates me to be more loving. Thanks for sharing these ideas. Love them!