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The Power Of Visualization: Attracting The Relationship Of Your Dreams

Have you ever fantasized about being with the partner of your dreams? If so, then you have already tapped into the tool that can help you actualize this in real life. Visualization, the kind that involves imagining success in love, has long been employed by professional athletes to create amazing results. Research is showing that many professions are already using the tools of visualization quite effectively – surgeons use it to possess laser focus; musicians use it to improve their performance; and business executives use it to ace a presentation. Many use it to stay on their diets to lose weight. You too, you can use visualization to call in your beloved and to experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

How Visualization Works

Your brain believes what you imagine. Brain science reveals that you experience real-world and imaginary actions in similar ways. For example, whether you are acing an event or only picturing it, you activate many of the same neural networks and pathways of nerve cells that link your body to the brain impulses that control it. What’s on your mind screen stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, which activates an increase in heart rate, breathing, and blood pressure. Just by envisioning a movement, such as holding hands with your partner-to-be, elicits nervous-system responses of that same action.

Tweet: As you visualize, so it becomes. – Tamara Green, LCSW

Go ahead and imagine yourself holding the hand of your beloved – as if it’s happening right now. Then, get even more detailed in your visualization. As if you are watching a scene or interaction of your beloved in your own movie – where you are the star. Let all your senses come alive. What are you feeling, hearing, smelling, tasting and touching in this beautiful scene? Are you walking hand-in-hand on a gorgeous beach while on vacation together? Are you in a kitchen making dinner and laughing hysterically? Maybe it’s a quiet scene where both of you are cuddled up on the couch reading books?

Allow yourself to really surrender into this visualization, sensing it and feeling it all. It feels good, right? To make this extra powerful, visualize this everyday for at least 2 minutes. Add in more details each time and increase your imagination play to 5 minutes per day. Smile and bask in the feelings of joy and peace, and of feeling so deeply loved and adored by your partner.

The more you envision, the more you activate your emotions to match the scene on your mind screen. The more detailed you get in your visualization with your beloved, the more familiar you become to achieving it because you are creating new neuro pathways in your brain. Plus, your nervous system reaps the benefits: increase in calm and confidence and decrease in heart rate and stress hormones. So, what are you waiting for? Give visualization a try!

To make it super easy for you, Tamara packaged together her 10 most popular meditations into one album. Listed below are the powerful and transformative meditations in this album that’ll help you visualize the loving relationship that you deserve:

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  • Get What You Desire
  • Forgive Yourself
  • Healing To Wholeness
  • Loving You
  • Receive The Love You Deserve
  • Set Your Heart Free
  • Sexy Irresistible You
  • Stress Relief NOW
  • Blissful Sleep

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What You Didn’t Know About Meditation Will Calm You Down Now

I am busting the myth that all meditations are quiet and serene. Actually, some can be quite active, powerful and releasing. Before jumping in and getting physical, first, tune into what’s upsetting you.

Part 1 – What’s Bothering You?

Is something upsetting you? Then, the meditation below will help calm you right down. Go ahead and find out what that is. Does it have to do with a comment someone made or how you are harshly judging yourself? Maybe it’s about your relationship or lack thereof? Good, you are getting to what’s bothering you.

Now feel it… feel your emotions completely and notice where it lands in your body. When you tune into your body, you can locate it right away. I know you don’t like feeling this, and I promise that you’re going to release it soon during the meditation portion of this blog, but for now, just feel it. Be with it. Don’t judge it as “bad”, but allow yourself to feel this feeling entirely. Good for you, because this is not easy.

Score this feeling. What number (from 1 through 10) are you giving this emotion and physical sensation? Example: If you are feeling something between humiliated and neutral, then give yourself a score of 3, and so on.

1 – Worst ever (Humiliated, Despair and Anxious)

5 – Satisfied (Neutral)

10 – Best ever (Peace, Love and Joy)

Make a mental note of this score and begin the active meditation.

Note: This meditation is even more effective if you are listening to rhythmic music or drumming. To listen to an audio of this meditation with Tamara’s voice and powerful music, you’ll want to check out 21 Days to Self-Love Meditation Experience. The meditation written out below is Day 10 of this program. For the next 48 hours only, this entire transformative meditation program is 50% off!

 Calm Your Upset Now Meditation:

Part 2 – Loosening Up

Take off your shoes (flat shoes are OK but no shoes are best). Stand up, feet shoulder’s distance apart and let your knees go slack. Begin to gently bounce up and down. You can lift your heels off the floor every time you bounce up if you want, or, just keep your heels on the ground—either way is fine.

For a total of at least 3 minutes, bounce up and down, up and down, up and down… get into a good tempo. This gentle bouncing is rhythmic. Whenever I do this meditation, I have the vision that I am a Native Indian riding bareback on a horse that is galloping across the plains.

Let the muscles in your face go slack. Release your jaw. Lower your shoulders and let your arms and hands go, as they are dangling at your sides. Let them flop around as you bounce. Consciously let your back muscles go free. Release your stomach muscles. The main muscles working here are in your legs. Everything else needs to completely relax.

By moving your body up and down, you are creating a flow of energy from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. You are also releasing your muscles and causing relaxation, which occurs when your focus is on your body. When you are upset, the focus is on your thoughts, which creates stuck energy somewhere in your body. Negative energy often gets stuck in your joints, so gentle bouncing begins to open up your joints and your chakras that createa a nice flow of energy throughout your body. Tension in your muscles is the result of being upset, so keep moving up and down to release the built-up tension.

If you are feeling some physical pain, exhaling out of your mouth will help ease that pain. Don’t stop bouncing if it’s only minor pain. Where there is pain, there is stuck energy. If you hang in there, the minor pain will cease. If the pain is severe, however, then sit on the floor or in a chair and move your head from side to side instead, as if you are shaking your head “no”. This also relieves tons of stuck energy out of your stinkin’ thinkin’ head.

Keep gently bouncing up and down. Begin to smile. This immediately releases endorphins and frees your brain and body from what it’s holding onto. For one full minute more, keep bouncing up and down, up and down, up and down…

Okay, stop bouncing and shake out your hands and feet as if you are shaking off some mud. Shake your hands, shake your feet. Shake, shake, shake. Now, with your arms at your sides, turn your palms facing forward and feel the energy. You will probably feel a tingling sensation. That’s good. Notice how your entire body has responded to the gentle bouncing. Feel the currents of energy running up and down your body.

Part 3 – Explosive Release

Now that the energy is flowing much more freely throughout your body, get ready for the very active part of this meditation where you will truly release your upset. It’s going to be a total of 5 completely explosive and powerful breaths (always inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth):

  • 1st Explosive Releasing Breath Breathe in and expand your chest while holding up your arms over your head, high, high, high above your head. Now, blow out your breath while throwing down your arms and hands with total force toward the floor. Let it go! Good! Rest for a second.
  • 2nd Explosive Releasing Breath – When you breathe in, fill up your lungs completely and lift up your hands – all the way up, up, up…now let it go with all your might, release what you have been holding onto, as if you are throwing it all down into the earth. Perfect! Rest for a second.
  • 3rd Explosive Releasing Breath – Again, breathe in sharply, hands up and gather up that negative energy, gather it up, gather it up, gather it up… and throw that negativity down to the floor with all of your might. Release it now! Excellent! Rest for a second.
  • 4th Explosive Releasing Breath – Breathe in all the way, hands up, hands up… gather, gather, gather… and throw it down with 100% of your energy. Let it go!!! Wow, that’s powerful! Rest for a second.
  • 5th Explosive Releasing Breath – Last one, breathe in, in, in… hold it and gather the remains of that negative energy and now throw your hands down with all your might releasing it all.

Good, breathe in a deep calming breath… shake your hands then shake your feet – to shake off the remnants of stress and upset.

Part 4 – Feel The Calm

Sit down and completely relax. Put your hands on your lap with palms up. You did an amazing job. You released a ton of negativity. Feel proud of yourself because you did a great job using your potency to let go of some harmful stuck energy. Feel your energy freely flowing throughout your body.

Remember in the beginning, when I asked you to feel this upset in your body to see where it landed? Do you remember where you felt this stuck energy in your body? What was the score that you gave this feeling before the meditation? Give a new score to how you feel as a result of this meditation.

1 – Worst ever (Humiliated, Despair and Anxious)

5 – Satisfied (Neutral)

10 – Best ever (Peace, Love and Joy)

Did your score higher? Are you feeling better? Most of you will be feeling much better than you did just minutes ago.

Part 5 – Visualize Yourself Feeling Good

Since you freed yourself from some negative energy and opened up some space within your cells, it’s important for you to fill in this newly opened space with what you desire. So, take a moment to visualize yourself feeling cool, calm and at peace for the rest of your week. Go one step further and turn this visualization into a statement or affirmation. For example, I Am the center of my peace, or, I feel good.

Acknowledge yourself for doing a great job!

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Finding Gifts In Every Challenge: 3 Rounds Of Ho’oponopono

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Challenges can be emotionally and even physically painful, not only for you, but also for your loved one who is often right by your side. I know because I was there when my husband, David, was going through his major life challenge – cancer. Together, we experienced the emotional shock of hearing the doctor tell him, “You have stage-4 cancer.” During his chemo, radiation and finally major surgery, he was so uncomfortable that it was sometimes difficult seeing him go through it. His challenge became my challenge, too. Even so, the experience turned into amazing gifts for both of us. Here are three:

  • David is now cancer free and healthy as ever.
  • Our relationship grew even closer.
  • We use our unique talents to create healing meditations that we love to gift to others. In our Loving Meditations audios, I guide you with my words while David’s music takes you into an even deeper and tranquil state. The combination is powerful.

Every challenge has a degree of benefit and your job is to find what those benefits are. To help you do this, I will share with you a meditation using an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness called Ho’oponopono (pronounced Hoe’ oh-poe-no-poe-no).  When done regularly, it can be quite healing.

Everything in your life – your likes, dislikes, passions, health problems, relationship, etc. – you create.  In fact, you create everything your experience. How, then, can you deal with the challenges you create? By using Ho’oponopono to speak directly to Source energy with the following phrases:

“I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.”

When looking at another person (and sometimes yourself) and feeling disgust, anger, judgment, hatred, etc., whatever comes up, just feel it – it’s okay. Then say to yourself (not out loud) – to your connection with Source energy:

“I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.”

Everything you experience in your outer world, you experience in your inner world.  Therefore, the problems and challenges need to be corrected and healed within you by offering them to Source energy – which is the energy of unconditional love.

As you may experience in the 3 rounds of Ho’oponopono, it gives you the power to erase negative beliefs and outcomes.  As you do it for you, you also do it for others… and, consequently, the world.

3 Rounds Of Ho’oponopono:

You’ll get a better understanding of what the phrases mean and how they will release you as we go along. Take three deep breaths to get started. Relax your eyes and lower your shoulders. Say to yourself – to Source energy:

Round 1… Releasing Fear
  • I’m sorry… I’m sorry for being scared… I’m sorry for feeling the way that I do. I’m sorry for believing the illusion of fear… for unconsciously bringing this onto myself… I’m sorry, I’m so sorry.
  • Please forgive me… for being so blind when I didn’t mean to be. Please forgive me… I know that forgiveness is setting me free, so please forgive me.
  • Thank you… Thank you for helping me. I know that gratitude is a transmuting energy, so thank you… Thank you… I know that fear is only a projection of my mind. Thank you… for bringing me into this moment so that I can release my fear. Thank you.
  • I love you… and I love knowing that everything is love, including me. I love you… the name of Source energy… the name of this experience… I love you.
Round 2… Releasing Self-Hatred
  • I’m sorry… I’m sorry for hating myself… I’m sorry for feeling the way that I do. I’m sorry for making myself wrong… I’m sorry for beating myself up… for unconsciously bringing this onto myself… I’m sorry, I’m so sorry.
  • Please forgive me… for being so blind and not realizing what I was doing to myself. Please forgive me… I know that forgiveness is setting me free, so please forgive me.
  • Thank you… thank you for this experience… Thank you for helping me. I know that gratitude is a transmuting energy, so thank you… I know that this hatred is only fear projected onto myself. Thank you… for bringing me into this moment so that I can release my self-hatred. Thank you.
  • I love you… and I love knowing that everything is love, including me. I love you… the name of Source energy… the name of this experience… I love you.
Round 2… Releasing Anger
  • I’m sorry… I’m sorry for holding onto anger… I’m sorry for beating myself up for feeling angry… I’m sorry for projecting my anger onto others… I’m sorry for unconsciously bringing this onto myself… This has been eating me up inside… I’m sorry… I’m so sorry.
  • Please forgive me… for being so blind and not realizing what this is doing to me. Please forgive me… I know that forgiveness is setting me free, so please forgive me.
  • Thank you… Thank you for this experience… Thank you for helping me. I know that gratitude is a transmuting energy, so thank you… I know that this moment is perfect, just as it is. Thank you… I know that holding onto anger only keeps me tied to my past. I am not a victim, so thank you… for bringing me into this moment so that I can release this anger. Thank you.
  • I love you… and I love knowing that everything is love, including me. I love you… the name of Source energy… the name of this experience… I love you.

You did a great job. This is your inner wisdom at work. Everything you experience in relationships is never between you and someone else. It’s between you and Source energy and it’s between them and Source energy – never between you and them.

Recite the phrases in any order.  Never say it to another person, just to yourself.  Say the Ho’oponopono phrases around the clock:

“I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.”

To have your challenges turn into gifts, have Ho’oponopono constantly playing in the background of your mind. In doing so, your life will be transformed.

Step into the world of pure surrender, forgiveness and bliss by listening to this blog as an audio (24 hour replay available on Monday). To receive this creation by Tamara and David, please make sure you are signed up for Miracle Mondays Meditation.

Sending you off with love…

You Will Experience Your Love Desires: 3 Universal Truths That Prove This, Part II

IMG_2582I know an amazing woman named Brooke. She came to one of my workshops where I gave the homework assignment of writing on Post-It notes, “The Universe Has My Back,” and sticking them all around the house – as a constant reminder that we are always loved, supported and guided. Brooke did so, even though her kids teased her. But that didn’t stop her because she was soothed by the daily reminder that, yes indeed, the Universe really does have her back.

Today, Brooke sent me a photo of a miniature-sized Adirondack Chair with the words written on it, “The Universe Has Your Back Brooke” (see photo). Her daughter, 14-year-old Jill created it at her camp and sent this photo to her Mom.

Two weeks ago, in my blog, You Will Experience Your Love Desires: 3 Universal Truths That Prove This, Part I, I gave you 3 Universal Truths that prove that your love desires will actualize. Let’s explore, then, why you haven’t yet created them and how to unblock this loveless and vicious cycle.

Universal Truth #1: You have a Higher Self that guides every moment of your existence.

Are you tuned in to that guidance? Every thought you have is like a hypnotic suggestion, therefore, what are you thinking when you think about love? What are your true beliefs about love? If you are single, you may have a belief that love is difficult to attract, or, that you have to give up something (like yourself) to have love. Or maybe you don’t believe that you are good enough for love. If you are already in a relationship, then maybe you believe that you shouldn’t fully trust because you’ll just get hurt or dumped. Therefore, the question to ask yourself is, are your thoughts hijacking your love intention?

 Tip to tune into your own higher guidance: Write a list of every complaint you have about your love life (or lack thereof). One by one, take each complaint and say the opposite. In other words, turn it into an affirmation that you’ll repeat for the next 30 days. For example, if your complaint is that it’s difficult to find love. Switch it to the opposite by writing, “It’s easy to find love.” Go ahead and turn each complaint into a positive and reap the benefits of a rewired and positive mind.

 Universal Truth #2: Time exists only in this moment.

Having a grudge about something that happened in your past or having ill feelings about someone is the fastest way to sabotage your good intentions for love. Also, focusing on the future that’s not even here yet is often not helpful. For example, one of the fastest ways that women sabotage a date is by immediately deciding whether the guy is marriage material or not. Ladies, please stop that because it takes you right out of the present moment and produces anxiety for you and your date.

Tip to stay present: Do what Brooke did. Stay calm and present by reminding yourself that the Universe has your back. Go ahead and write that on at least 20 Post-It notes and stick them around your home. They will be your constant reminder to stay present, relax and enjoy your life as it is.

Universal Truth #3: Having a desire means that it will actualize.

Most people doubt this and try to use their brains to figure out what to do instead of being with what is. People tend to stick with their bad habits of negative self-talk and behaviors.

Tip to have what you desire: Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, be grateful for what you do have.

I’d like to thank Brooke for sharing her daughter’s beautiful creation and for reminding us all that your love desire will actualize if you let your Higher Self guide, love and support you.

{7 Sacred Flames} Bad Boy or Nice Guy: 6 Steps To Choose What’s Right For You

birdNot all women are attracted to bad boys. In this article, I’m going to talk to the women who are. Admit it, part of you is craving the excitement that bad boy brings into your life and part of you is saying, “No way, he’s not good for me! I’ll stick with the nice guy who really cares for me.” You’ve probably asked yourself a zillion times, why can’t I get that bad boy out of my mind? Or, Why can’t I just be happy with that nice guy who wants me? Let’s face it, there’s a war going on inside of you called internal conflict and it’s turning you into a birdbrain.

Internal Conflict Revealed: Body vs. Subconscious Mind

Your Body: You are not your body, but your body has it’s own consciousness. It loves to be lusted after, to be touched, to have fun, to have sex, and to experience electrifying excitement. In fact, this level of excitement can be like a drug. In terms of the hormonal chemicals flooding your brain, you may have become addicted to your bad boy. And consider this, just by being with a bad boy, aren’t you being a naughty girl? In fact, being with a bad boy actually plays a role in your level of excitement. Most sexual fantasies, for example, are exciting because they involve doing something judged as daring, questionable or even ‘bad’. Think about it, if the fantasy were all about doing the ‘right’ or ‘good’ thing, then it wouldn’t be such an exciting fantasy.

Nice guys can provide a lovely experience for the body. For example, their touch can be nurturing and caring and give great massages and loving hugs. However, you may experience your nice guy’s touch as predictable with little to no surprises. Unlike the bad boy, nice guys tend to lead stable and steady lives, yet your body may be craving more excitement. Is your body bored with your nice guy?

Your Subconscious Mind: Most people have blocked-out or are unaware of what’s going on with this part of their being. This is where your inner child resides. Plain and simple, your inner child wants to be loved, cared for, and accepted. Most likely, your inner child feels much more comfortable and safe with a nice guy and feels terrified that the bad boy is going to trample on its tender and sensitive heart. Does your inner child want the safety and security that the nice guy provides? A couple of birdies are going to help you do this so let’s get started with the 6 steps to dissolve your internal conflict – guided meditation style…

6 Steps To Dissolve Your Internal Conflict

Ok, it’s all perfectly clear now. Your body yearns for your bad boy and your inner child needs your nice guy. Both are fighting tooth and nail to get what it wants. How do you resolve your internal conflict? By using the love energies of the Violet Flame to first dissolve the conflict, then to come together in one aligned agenda. A couple of birdies are going to help you do this so let’s get started…

1. Set Your Love Target Statement – More than anything else, your body and your inner child want a long-term loving relationship or else you wouldn’t be having this internal conflict in the first place. Therefore, it’s important for you to set an overall love goal. To help you create this, begin to get a sense of what you want to experience in 1, 5 and 10 years from now. When you allow yourself to have a peek into your desired future, it becomes clearer of what you want in the love department. Now, on a piece of paper, write down everything you want in your long-term relationship. Make sure you cover all the desires of your body and your inner child. Take the key words and create your love target statement. Here are 2 examples: I have an exciting life with my adoring partner who is just right for me. Or, My husband and I have a passionate life filled with children and service to the world. (Tip: Your love target statement should only be 1 sentence and brief enough for you to easily memorize.)

2. Invoke The Violet Flame – Now that you have your love target statement, you can tune into your body and inner child agendas having to do with that goal. Sit with your feet flat on the floor. Breathe into your lower abdomen (Sacral chakra, 2 inches below your belly button) 3 times. This calms your mind. Keep breathing deeply until you feel yourself becoming lighter and more relaxed. As simple as turning on a light switch, invoke the Violet Flame into every cell, atom and electron of your body with it’s cleansing and healing energies. The Violet Flame resonates at a frequency of pure love and is guiding your different agendas to be aligned as one, for the betterment of your highest good. Whether you feel this energy or not, just know that you are being infused with the wondrous properties of this Flame.

3. That’s For The Birds – Now that you are completely filled with the Violet Flame, imagine that you are sitting very comfortably on a patio chair outside on a beautifully warm and sunny day. No one else is around; it’s just you and the gorgeous nature that surrounds you. A little bird flies in about 6 feet in front of your chair and perches on a low-lying tree branch. This bird represents your body’s agenda. Then a 2nd bird flies in, sitting next to the 1st . This bird represents your inner child’s agenda. Each bird has the opportunity to fully express their agenda while the other listens intently.

4. A Little Birdie Told Me – Imagine that the 1st bird (your body’s agenda) begins to fully express its desires, needs and wishes. At the same time, the 2nd bird (your inner child’s agenda), is not only listening intently, but is very curios and interested in what the 1st bird has to say. She is filled with unconditional love while giving the 1st bird her full attention. In other words, there is absolutely no judgment about what the 1st bird is expressing. ‘Body’ bird loves this and chirps away until she has completely and fully expressed herself.

Now it’s the 2nd bird’s (your inner child’s agenda) turn to fully express its desires, needs and wishes. At the same time, the 1st bird is not only listening intently, but is very curios and interested in what the 2nd bird has to say. She is filled with unconditional love while giving the 2nd bird her full attention. Again, there is absolutely no judgment about what the 2nd bird is expressing. ‘Inner child’ bird loves this and chirps away until she has completely and fully expressed herself.

The birds feel so good about expressing and listening that they feel giddy with excitement and start flapping their wings and singing to one another on the tree branch.

5. More Violet Flame – A cloud of Violet Flame energy now drifts over the 2 happy birds. Every inch of them is infused with the Flame energy until they radiate unconditional love. All conflict between them is completely dissolved. The Flame energy is lovingly guiding them to create an aligned agenda. Each bird becomes so filled with joy that they begin flying in a tight circle around one other. In fact, they spin around so tight and fast that they merge as one. This glowing violet-colored bird now circles around you while sitting in your chair. It’s getting ready to fly right into your chest… It circles around once, twice and, ready? Boom! The ‘aligned agenda’ bird flies into your open heart creating an explosion of release, hope and love throughout ever cell of your being. Take this in…breathe it in 3 more times.

6. Embody Your Love Target Statement – Good work on bringing your 2 birds together – dissolving your inner conflict and bringing your body and inner child together as one aligned agenda. Your job now is to constantly repeat your love target statement. Say it like a mantra at least 100 times per day. You should have it memorized until it flows right off your tongue. When you embody it completely is when you will experience it, so don’t stop saying it to yourself.

Great job on releasing your birdbrain. Instead, your agendas are like birds of a feather flocking together. Yay!

Want to learn more about the 7 Sacred Flames and how they can transmute every area of your life?

Then don’t miss Tamara’s free webinar called 7 Sacred Flames To Transform Your Life. Just to give an overview, here is what you’ll experience when using the Flames on a regular basis:

  • Clear all energies that did not originate with you
  • Help lift the veil of programmed illusions
  • Tune-in to your own wisdom and guidance realm
  • Help release emotional wounds
  • Quiet the mind
  • Help heal physical pain, ailments and diseases
  • Gain confidence
  • Experience a life filled with ease, joy and harmony
  • Become patient
  • Attract abundance, including love
  • Calm the nervous system
  • Bring you greater balance and grace
  • Anchor in the higher energy frequencies and vibrations of the Higher Dimensions

Register for Tamara’s webinar on April 23rd at 8:30 pm EST below

Keys to a Happy Life – Part 2: Diet & Lifestyle

At the start of my Emotional Healing Powers Of Meditation workshop I gave last week, a student came up to me and said, “I just wanted you to know that I’m so exhausted that I may have to leave your workshop early.” I replied, “You may be surprised how invigorated you’ll feel after I teach you some body tapping and meridian stretching exercises.”

Sure enough, she not only stayed through to the end but also reported feeling happy and revitalized. Her smiling face showed it, too. When I asked her what had her so exhausted, she said that she worried about all the things on her plate and had trouble relaxing and sleeping at night. She admitted that her health and happiness were at risk due to her busy lifestyle.

Is this fast-paced world having an impact on your health and happiness, too?

Women tend to feel tired and overwhelmed because they do too much and constantly multitask to keep up with long to-do lists. As a result, they feel stressed, disorganized and don’t properly take care of themselves. Men, on the other hand, tend to hyper-focus which causes them to place too much attention in just one area, such as, work. The result is a sense of life passing them by. When men retire, they feel they missed out on the important things, such as, family and health.

Sound familiar? Then don’t skip this video. It’s packed with great tips and advice on how to regain a happy lifestyle.

Listen to the experts (including John Gray, the Mars/Venus guy) to get important information on how to get off the treadmill and back into a life that you love.

To summarize, a happier lifestyle includes:

  • Eating nutritious and high quality foods and having downtime built into your busy schedule.
  • A daily spiritual practice, such as meditation, which helps you hold on to your happiness for longer periods of time.
  • Spending time in nature, which helps you unplug, become centered, mindful and able to receive the energy the Universe is trying to give to you at every moment.

Subscribe to Tamara’s YouTube Channel and catch her upcoming videos: Raise Your Love Vibration, Part 1 (Body Tapping) and Raise Your Love Vibration, Part 2 (Meridian Stretching)

8 Keys For A Successful Self-Love Meditation Experience

bigstock-Silhouette-young-woman-practic-44959312The 21 Days to Self-Love Meditation Experience has begun! I am very excited to be on this journey with you. Wow! There are quite a number of you who have signed up and are obviously ready to step into a higher vibration of loving yourself madly and authentically.  It’s through the higher vibration of this self-love that every part of your life will be magically touched in new and wonderful ways. For those of you who have already signed up, I want to say ‘congratulations’ for giving yourself this gift. If you haven’t signed up yet, please join in on this 21 Day to Self-Love Experience.

There is not a person out there who has embarked on a spiritual practice who, at some point, wanted to stop, distract themselves or quit altogether. Let me share with you, then, the following tips to achieve the best results for this next three weeks.

Eight Keys For A Successful Self-Love Meditation Experience

  1. Commit to the daily 10 to 20 minute meditations (here are some really great ones!) for the full 21 Days. When beginning a new practice, there is a natural tendency to cave-in and give up way too quickly. Even with the best intentions to keep going, unfortunately, about half of you will succumb to your old behaviors of self-sabotage by missing days or even dropping out all together. Is that going to be you?! I hope not!! If you find yourself hitting a wall and ready to quit, instead, please send me a brief email and let me know what’s going on. I want to help you stay the course to the full 21 days. You are not alone and have my support.
  2. Set your intention. Take one thing that you’d like to change and take it all the way through the entire 21 days. For example, if ‘putting yourself down’ is what you’d like to change, then take that issue and run it through every single daily meditation. That way, you will be able to get into every nook and cranny of that problem and release a little bit each and every day.
  3. Pick that one time per day that works best for you. Studies show that if you meditate the same time everyday, you will have a more profound result. Whether you are on the live 8:00 pm ET calls or choose to listen to the daily meditation recording links, have it be at the same time, such as, in the morning when you wake up, over lunch, after dinner or before going to bed.
  4. Pick a quiet place in your home, office, nearby beach or park (where ever you choose) that is your sanctuary. Make sure it’s a place where you will have total peace of mind, no distractions and can freely move your body (some meditations are active).
  5. Refrain from giving meaning or judgment to the thoughts, beliefs, fears, emotions and feelings that will pop during meditation. When they come, DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF. Gently smile and let them float away. Know that what comes to the surface is for a wonderful reason – because you’re ready to have them leave your mind and body. To make that happen, just be the witness and observer of the thoughts, etc. and watch it float by you. Even for the most seasoned meditator, thoughts come up. NO BIGGIE. Go ahead and notice them and let them gently float away then refocus yourself back onto the meditation.
  6. Be patient with yourself. There’s no way to do meditation wrong. As with any new practice, patience is your virtue. Be patient and kind to wonderful YOU!
  7. Wear headphones or put your phone on speaker when calling in to the live calls. Being ‘hands free’ gives your body a chance to relax and release even more.
  8. Reward or treat yourself for making this important commitment and investment. You have decided to improve the relationship that you have with yourself and that’s great!! Decide what that reward is going to be. Here are some suggestions:
    – Take a scented bath at the end of each week
    – Take yourself to that movie you’ve been wanting to see
    – Go to YouTube and watch that scene of a movie that makes you laugh hysterically. For me it’s Who’s On First by Abbott and Costello.

To listen to the audio of these tips plus a meditation called Kicking Self-Sabotage Out Your Life, go the 21 Days to Self-Love Meditation Hub. To have access to this Hub with all the free replays of each day’s meditation, you must be signed up for The 21 Days To Self-Love Meditation Experience.

“See ya” tonight! 

5 Absolutely stunning (and FREE!) meditations that will get you through life and love

bigstock-Portrait-Of-Female-Yoga-Hands--47076091Life happens to all of us. From love to heartache, wins and disappointments – you can’t escape life. It comes as no surprise that I am a lifelong meditation activist. For me, it is truly vital to live a life as uncomplicated from external and fleeting upsets as possible. I believe meditation brings you closer to the world around you. In fact, it makes you one with the world – with your energies mingling into a force that flows and pulsates love.

Indeed, the more you meditate, the more you evolve into a higher state of consciousness. That is a truly beautiful place to be. You gain clarity in your mind and soul. You find yourself approaching “problems” with a calm resolution. You experience completeness, joy, vibrance, physical and mental health, peace of mind, lack of stress – fathomless benefits to your body and soul with only a few minutes a day!

This is why I have made sharing the power of meditation my mission. Thank you for reading my message, now I invite you to listen to my meditations and I wish you to experience the peace and joy that it has brought me. These are the 5 visual guided meditations that I have created to share with the world. Let my soothing voice, stunning visuals and expertly crafted original music created by Grammy Nominated Composer, David Dachinger of (www.ddmusic.com) guide you to healing, wellness and love. Enjoy!

  1. Receiving Meditation

    A love problem is a receiving problem. So many people know how to give but not how to receive, or receive enough. Giving to others is great, but often, people tend to over-give which creates scarcity. Therefore, receive, receive, receive — which creates balance and harmony in your relationships.
  2. I Am Sorry Meditation

    Forgive yourself and heal your heart to find love.
  3. 7 Keys to Actualize What You Seek Meditation

    Watch this stunning guided meditation to help you actualize what you seek and find love.

  4. Heartbeat Meditation

    Watch this stunning guided meditation to release anger and heal yourself.
  5. Does Your Love life Suck? Then Stop Dreaming Small Meditation

    YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR LIFE! Learn how to manifest the relationship you desire with this guided meditation.

Watch these meditations and share share share! This is meant to help as many people as possible to open them up for love and healing. Don’t forget to subscribe to my youtube channel!

Meditation beginner? No problem! You have the most to gain. Check out my tips for meditation beginners below.

Tamara’s tips for beginner meditators:

  • Start with guided meditations (I recommend about 20 minutes per day, every day). If you are trying to work through a specific problem (i.e., self-esteem, relationship, health), then it takes anywhere from 21 to 30 days of daily meditation to begin to experience true results. Thoughts wander like crazy for beginners, so it’s helpful to give your stinking thinking brain a job, such as following a guided meditation. The brain needs a job to keep it out of the your way to what you are trying to achieve (a quiet mind or neutral state).
  • Become the observer and the witness of your thoughts during meditation. In other words, as if you are a scientist who is collecting data for research, notice YOU having a thought, DON’T JUDGE IT, then consciously decide to go back into the guided meditation (into the neutral state).
  • Be patient with yourself, be light and even laugh at yourself at having thoughts, feelings and emotions that come up during meditation. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has plenty of thoughts, feelings and emotions during the beginning practice of meditation. It’s normal, normal, normal. Be grateful that you are motivated, even excited, to embark on a life transformative experience.
  • DON’T GIVE UP!!! Keep going. You’ll hit road blocks, but stay disciplined and committed to the practice and you’ll work through them, and everything else in your life.

21 Days to Self Love Experience

so excited 1Can you imagine what it would be like to feel limitless? Can you imagine altering your biology through the use of your own energy? This is within reach through meditation.

Meditation is powerful. In just minutes per day, it can release your aching heart, exhilarate your senses, make you feel loved, grounded and filled with purpose. When your thoughts, feelings and emotions are calm and neutral, you enter into a space of pure potential and possibilities.

With meditation, the physiology undergoes a change and every cell in the body is filled with more high vibrating energy. As this level of high vibration energy in the body increases, the result is joy, peace, and enthusiasm.

I am offering a complimentary daily meditation – 21 Days To Self Love Experience! I am a firm believer in giving back and striving to enrich the lives of as many people as the universe will allow. I believe in it so much that I have made it my life’s mission.

Meditation is the simplest and purest way to achieve all that you seek and helps people in all walks of life – and all it takes is your beautiful mind! It gives me great pleasure to announce this new and wonderful way I can fulfill my mission.  I am so passionate about meditation and know that it has transformed my life in so many ways, but especially in loving myself. It’s in meditation that I receive daily blessings and I wish very much for this bounty to be yours.

The 21 Days to Self Love Experience – what is it?
On Oct 8th – Oct 28th, I am doing a 20-minute daily meditation live call (replay links available) for 21 days in a row. This is totally free and all are welcome to join and be uplifted.

This is 21 days of live 20-minute meditations to get you in line with what is really important as we go about our daily tasks.

The calls begin on October 8, 2014 at 8:00pm ET and continue every day after that until October 28, 2014. 

I offer this 21 Day Meditation Experience as a service to raise consciousness in the world and finally gain freedom through the power of meditation. It’s a powerful and transformative experience where many people experience huge benefits.

If you truly commit to the full 21 days of daily meditation, you will:

  • Transform your negative self-talk and thoughts into a powerful and loving dialogue with yourself
  • Release old beliefs (i.e., I’m not good enough) and create new ones that work for you (i.e., I love me and my life!)
  • Love yourself madly
  • Enter into a state of bliss and joy everyday
  • Take that huge problem in your life and transform it
  • Release the emotional addictions to your past
  • Be an integral part of my book What Is Your Love Vibration?
  • Access to all of the replay links throughout the 21 days

Come on, it’s time to invest your energy into possibilities and a life of pure potential. From October 8th through to October 28th, every evening at 8:00 PM ET, I will be on a call with you live for a 20-minute meditation that will rock your world.

A fun way to celebrate the 21 Days to Self Love Experience:

Here’s a fun way to allow YOU to shine! Post on facebook, Instagram or twitter a selfie that shows how YOU contribute to yourself. This can be a selfie of you taking a much needed ice cream break, walking on the beach, practicing yoga, or reading a good book – the possibilities are endless!

Let me have them for 21 days using the hashtag #21dayselfielove

Make sure to follow me on twitter and like me on facebook!

Get to loving yourself and sign up for this TOTALLY FREE offer below:

{Tips} Making Relationships Easy Breezy

Dating with confidence. Tamara GreenOK readers, what’s your main belief about long lasting loving relationships? Come on, answer honestly, from your own experience.

The #1 answer I get to this question:
“Long lasting loving relationships are hard work.”

I can understand why this response wins over any other. It’s because over the years, we have heard from our families, friends and even from the ‘experts’ that healthy and long lasting relationships are “hard work” or “a lot of work.” At this point, we’ve been programmed to think this way because it’s what we’ve been fed for years. Well, I’d like to throw this old belief out the window and institute a new one – one that works for your relationship, not against it.

Here’s my declaration:

Wonderful, long lasting, healthy and loving relationships are easy, fun and uncomplicated! It’s certainly true in my own marriage of 20 years and can be true for yours, too.

What makes relationships difficult?

Three words: Responsibilities, Obligations and Expectations (or, what I call, ROE). These three different types of judgment create a lot of unnecessary stress and heaviness in your love venture. For thousands of years, marriages were seen as business agreements between families, like contracts that had nothing to do with love. Even though much of the world currently does not subscribe to this concept, we still have a programmed response embedded in our brains and cells (a hard-wiring) because that’s how it’s been for so long.

As a couples’ therapist of 25 years, I’ve seen ROE be the demise of so many beautiful and potentially long-term partnerships.  When I convey to my coupled clients that ROE may be a culprit of their unhappiness, I often hear this defense: “What?! Of course we are responsible for each other! And yes, we have obligations! Doesn’t it make sense that we expect our needs to be taken care of by the other?” I then ask them, “Please feel what it feels like to have ROE in your relationship”. Without fail, they share, “Oh, now I see what you mean. It feels like a heavy burden, makes me feel tired and even trapped!.” And this is when I say, “And you wonder why your relationship feels like ‘hard work’?  BECAUSE YOU’RE MAKING IT HARD WORK!!”

You know those little round red thingies on top of the sushi called Salmon Roe (ROE)? If you and your partner operate from ROE, then, like fish eggs on sushi, your relationship doesn’t have a chance to blossom into a full-grown Salmon. In other words, ROE keeps your love from growing, blossoming and thriving because you’re both too busy swimming upstream and never making it to the top to spawn. It’s a losing battle.

Packed with surprising information and filled with easy tips, click here to listen to Tamara’s interview on the Ready For Betty Radio Show. It’s only 30 minutes, so how does it get easier than that?!

What makes relationships easy?

Two words: Contribution and Gratitude. These are not just words, these are energy vibrations or states of being. Asking how you can be a contribution to you, your partner and your relationship totally rocks! Contribution is the energy of ‘giving’. Gratitude is the energy of ‘receiving’.

Do you want to experience even more of what you love about your partner? Then place most, if not all, of your attention on what you love about them, not what you fear or don’t want. In other words, don’t focus on your complaints, but rather on what you appreciate. Trust me, you’ll get a lot more of what you want from your partner by doing that. Contribution and gratitude together create beautiful balance and harmony in a relationship.

Just like there is no black without white, there is no true giving without receiving. In healthy relationships, each person gives and receives 50/50.

Tamara’s Tips for an Easy Breezy Relationship:

  1. Stop operating from the belief that great relationships are ‘hard work’. They only are if you believe that they are. Where your mind goes, energy goes, therefore, invest your energy on possibilities…of easy, fun, sexy, passionate, uncomplicated, profoundly loving and long lasting relationships! Say this declaration daily: Wonderful, long lasting, healthy and loving relationships are easy, fun and uncomplicated! How exciting!
  2. Sit down with your partner and list out all the things you feel that you have to do, must do, need to do. This will give you an indication of whether your relationship is operating fromthe 3 relationship killers:  Responsibilities, Obligations and Expectations (ROE). If you find that you are operating from ROE, commit to releasing them and living more from contribution and gratitude.
  3. Institute more fun. For instance, after months of chemo, radiation and finally surgery, my husband got the word that he was cancer free. Hallelujah! We decided that fun was going to be central in our lives. As a result, every night for at least 30 minutes, we gleefully dance to funk music from the ‘70’s. I know, I know, I’m dating ourselves, but we are having the time of our lives and is central to creating our thriving relationship.

To my wonderful readers, a favor:

I will happily receive’ your love, support and contribution by clicking onto the YouTube link and either subscribing, viewing, liking and/or sharing (or better yet – ALL FOUR!!). It’s easy, once my video starts playing, just click onto the tiny red heart in the upper right corner. Viola! Your’e subscribed!

Thank you, I appreciate you so much!