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Happy Thanksgiving from Me to You!

In America, we love to say “thank you” on our most wonderful holiday – Thanksgiving. However, I want to seize this opportunity to express my gratitude to all of my readers from all every corner of the globe. You mean the world to me. I appreciate your integrity, interests and passions in whatever you do. Wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving!

– Tamara and her Loving Relationship Team

Please enjoy the grateful, fun and inspiring words of blogger, Marta Edmisten.

I am thankful for all the beauty that I can now find-almost every day.

I am thankful for the smiles of strangers and the gift of witnessing the wisdom of my dog. (I seriously doubt I’ll ever be able to consistently live in the moment as he does, or be so unabashedly all about love… I’m not ruling it out though.)

I am thankful that I still walk this earth. It is a luxury.

I am thankful for all the people who have loved and supported me – family, friends and people I’ve never met, especially those who never gave up on me even when I had.

I am thankful for the people who have given me the privilege of loving and supporting them.

I am thankful for everyone who has forgiven me when I screwed up royally.

I am thankful all the people (famous and unknown) who have fought tirelessly for the rights and dignities of others, animals and our planet.

I am thankful for every, book, movie, piece of art that brings me joy – better yet, makes me think.

I’m plain old thankful!

Soon, I hope, I’ll be thankful for:

  • A basic understanding of my computer and punctuation. 🙂
  • Being able to prepare food that is more often tasty than not.
  • Not running out of milk for my coffee in the morning, OR learning to enjoy my coffee straight up. (Marta-mornings are NOT pretty without coffee!)
  • Being thankful every day.

With Love and Gratitude,



The energy of gratitude is the gateway to positive change. – Tamara Green, Lovingly Relationship Expert

This photo shows Marta’s tattoo on her arm. Don’t you love it?

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Marta lives in Brooklyn, NY with her dog BullyBean.marta-edmisten

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The Power Of Visualization: Attracting The Relationship Of Your Dreams

Have you ever fantasized about being with the partner of your dreams? If so, then you have already tapped into the tool that can help you actualize this in real life. Visualization, the kind that involves imagining success in love, has long been employed by professional athletes to create amazing results. Research is showing that many professions are already using the tools of visualization quite effectively – surgeons use it to possess laser focus; musicians use it to improve their performance; and business executives use it to ace a presentation. Many use it to stay on their diets to lose weight. You too, you can use visualization to call in your beloved and to experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

How Visualization Works

Your brain believes what you imagine. Brain science reveals that you experience real-world and imaginary actions in similar ways. For example, whether you are acing an event or only picturing it, you activate many of the same neural networks and pathways of nerve cells that link your body to the brain impulses that control it. What’s on your mind screen stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, which activates an increase in heart rate, breathing, and blood pressure. Just by envisioning a movement, such as holding hands with your partner-to-be, elicits nervous-system responses of that same action.

Tweet: As you visualize, so it becomes. – Tamara Green, LCSW

Go ahead and imagine yourself holding the hand of your beloved – as if it’s happening right now. Then, get even more detailed in your visualization. As if you are watching a scene or interaction of your beloved in your own movie – where you are the star. Let all your senses come alive. What are you feeling, hearing, smelling, tasting and touching in this beautiful scene? Are you walking hand-in-hand on a gorgeous beach while on vacation together? Are you in a kitchen making dinner and laughing hysterically? Maybe it’s a quiet scene where both of you are cuddled up on the couch reading books?

Allow yourself to really surrender into this visualization, sensing it and feeling it all. It feels good, right? To make this extra powerful, visualize this everyday for at least 2 minutes. Add in more details each time and increase your imagination play to 5 minutes per day. Smile and bask in the feelings of joy and peace, and of feeling so deeply loved and adored by your partner.

The more you envision, the more you activate your emotions to match the scene on your mind screen. The more detailed you get in your visualization with your beloved, the more familiar you become to achieving it because you are creating new neuro pathways in your brain. Plus, your nervous system reaps the benefits: increase in calm and confidence and decrease in heart rate and stress hormones. So, what are you waiting for? Give visualization a try!

To make it super easy for you, Tamara packaged together her 10 most popular meditations into one album. Listed below are the powerful and transformative meditations in this album that’ll help you visualize the loving relationship that you deserve:

Loving Meditation Experience 10 Meditation Bundle

  • Activate Your Happiness
  • Get What You Desire
  • Forgive Yourself
  • Healing To Wholeness
  • Loving You
  • Receive The Love You Deserve
  • Set Your Heart Free
  • Sexy Irresistible You
  • Stress Relief NOW
  • Blissful Sleep

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The Holiday Season is approaching, so give this gift of love to yourself or to a friend or family member. From now until January 1, 2016, all of Tamara’s products are 50% off. Enjoy!

Shopping For ‘The One’

I love featuring guest bloggers, so please enjoy this one about the ups and downs of being a single woman in Boston while searching for ‘the One.’

Shopping For ‘The One’

SamanthaDarcyMore than two years ago, while in a failing eight year relationship and swimming in debt, I couldn’t imagine how anyone would be able to go it alone in a world where anything of high quality came with an even higher price tag. As I wasted months delaying the inevitable and dreading the decision to part from my high school sweetheart, I knew I had to take control of my life’s desires. Without a warning about life in a one-woman show, this 25-year-old first time single female set out in search of ‘the One.’

During that time, life came with its fair share of struggles as I turned to family, friends, counselors, spiritual advisers, and even a psychic for answers to my burning questions. I laughed and cried, almost loved and lost, obsessed, gave up, then danced and sang through the pain. Despite each fall, I got back on the horse, learning more about myself in the process.

For some, finding the right ‘One’ is easy. It comes wrapped with a pretty little bow and life goes on. Wanting to, but refusing to look back and harp on my unluckiness in love, I made it a goal to strive for ‘anything but dull’ and to become someone that I would admire.

I am an interior designer at Boston’s most prestigious architecture firm, designing multi-million dollar corporate interiors. In my free time, I also volunteer my graphic design services, creating anything from logos and business cards to wedding invitations and baby announcements. I have a fantastic family and a dynamite group of Zumba-loving friends, a new two door coupe, my own apartment in the city, and an active full life.

The minute my relationship ended, I surrounded myself with family and friends, and decided to explore the city that I didn’t know, despite living in it for six years. I met new people through new hobbies, began working out, volunteering, and took up writing. I have more hobbies than I can count, am rarely bored, and hardly ever turn down plans, especially after realizing how much of life is measured in experiences.

Somewhere in between, I find time to window-shop for boys.

Filtering through attractiveness, age, height, education, and zodiac sign (just to name a few) the idea of online dating was an exciting thought in the beginning. “Bald and short men need not apply!”

Fast-forward two years, when the bald ones become my favorite and the height requirement came down a few inches. It was becoming crystal clear to me why dating is a bouquet of smoke and mirrors. With over 30 first dates under my belt and an average of weeding through 7-10 duds to find a match, I had been left to wonder, Why I am the exception? On the path to bettering myself, meeting many people along the way, I raised my standards. Rushing to find someone became second to finding my equal. True chemistry proved rare, but essential. Finding the right person at the right time surfaced as another seemingly impossible necessity.

I had wanted the process of finding ‘the One’ to feel like Christmas morning instead of wondering if I should get a gift receipt. It’s been a journey of emotional ups and downs on what feels like an endless ride on a roller coaster. Each time I get to know someone new, it’s filled with mystery, questions, uncertainty, anxiety, and self-consciousness. At times, I’ve debated signing up for a match-making television show, knowing full well I am not built for TV. Other times, I’ve joked about a billboard-sized single’s ad with a ‘1-800-‘ number.

I’ve been someone’s rebound, someone’s one-that-got-away, someone’s future nothing, someone’s fun night, someone’s right now, someone’s foreign love affair, someone’s lover turned friend, and painfully enough, someone’s “maybe someday.” Each time, I try to remember that I am putting a mark on their lives as they are putting theirs on mine.

People come into your life for many reasons. Some come long enough to teach you something and then disappear, while others come in as a little boost to make me realize, I’ve still got it!

While in search, I try to remind myself, this is my life for now, but it can change in an instant with everything before it a distant memory.

Like anyone else, I have good and bad days and can feel completely alone, even in a room filled with my favorite people. There are some days where no amount of tears, friends, fro-yo, or ‘tattling on your ex to his mother’ can take away the pain of a broken heart. Eventually, time heals most wounds and I realize that I wouldn’t be half the person I am without each failure, success, new experience, interest, and character.

Still to this day, I am learning how to let go, to love, and to be patient. I just have to keep moving forward, until I find what works.

With all my dating, relationships, loves and losses, I have to believe that anything worth anything is worth the work and worth the wait.

Samantha Darcy is an interior designer living in Boston, Massachusetts. She started writing in 2013 at the end of a nearly 8-year relationship with her high school sweetheart. After an outpouring of encouragement to write about her experiences, she started compiling stories of life, love, loss, and dating on her journey to find ‘the One.’ You can read more blogs from Samantha at FindMyHand.wordpress.com.


You Will Experience Your Love Desires: 3 Universal Truths That Prove This, Part I

You Are You

When the word “love” comes up in conversation, usually all kinds of judgments are made. Do any of the following statements ring true for you?

  • Finding love is difficult.
  • I’ll never find love.
  • I’m scared of losing love.
  • I’m scared of having love.
  • Why won’t she love me just the way I am?
  • Why won’t he love me the way I want to be loved?

The word “desire” conjures up some negative responses, as well:

  • My desires are never fulfilled.
  • Desires remain just that – desires.
  • My desires are unattainable.
  • I don’t know how to achieve my desires.

Now, put these two anxiety-producing words together, “love desires,” and most people are ready to throw up their hands and completely give up.

Ready to end your misery? Good, because I have some great news that will give you tremendous hope about your love desires.

Universal Truth #1: You have a Higher Self that guides every moment of your existence.

We all do. This is the part of you that actually is you, this is, the real you.

There are many names for this loving guide of yours: Higher Self, I Am Presence, True Self, Authentic Self, God Self, Divine Spark, Infinite Being Self, to name a few. Your Highest Self sees everything, has the whole picture and loves you unconditionally. What a wonderful existence life becomes when one regularly tunes into this inner wisdom and loving support.

Universal Truth #2: Time exists only in this moment.

There is no past – its already gone. Your past is only showing you what you’ve survived. Therefore, your past does not exist, that is, unless you keep bringing it back into this present moment. There is no future – its not even here yet. There is only presence – this moment.

Universal Truth #3: Having a desire means that it will actualize.

That’s right, the fact that you want something is your Highest Self  letting you know that it will materialize in your physical world.

My good friend, Thomas Bahler, who wrote and produced with Quincy Jones, Michael Jackson and many other legends, wrote an incredible book titled, What You Want Wants You. These words are not only accurate, but are also another way to convey this message:

What your Higher Self sees as truth shows up to you as ‘desire’. The moment you experience desire, energetically speaking, it’s already created.  Therefore, having a desire means that you will actualize it in your physical world.

Isn’t that cool?! That’s like living with a fortuneteller who has 100% accuracy, 100% of the time!

Inhale 3 deep breaths to take this all in. Ahhhhhhh! Feels good to know this, right?

In next week’s blog, we will explore the reasons why you’re not yet experiencing your love desires and how to actually achieve them.

Until then, thank your Highest Self  for showing you the exciting life that you are creating!




13 Hot Flirting Tips: Making This Summer Sexy Fun

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Summer is a perfect time for sexy, flirty fun. Watch out men because you won’t be able to resist women who are performing the very effective art of sexy flirting!!

Men love flirty gestures. They feel admired and get the validation they need to approach you. Don’t think for a second that flirting is just for the singles, though. It adds so much excitement and pleasure for partners, too. It’s easy for couples to get into a rut and forget the fun and spicy side of their relationship, especially when trying to raise a family and hold down challenging careers.

Flirting, smiling, being daring and trying something new releases ‘happy hormones’, creating positive results, so don’t hold back.

Flirting, however, takes guts and confidence. It requires you to be light-hearted and open to new experiences. You may feel nervous because you are stepping out of your routine and comfort zone. That’s OK, just take a few deep breaths and do it anyway. Trust me, your efforts will be well worth it.

For a quick and easy boost to your confidence, especially if you are painfully shy, going on a first date, getting over a divorce, or just plain rusty in the flirting department, check out my very upbeat-guided meditation called Sexy Irresistible YOU. Doing so will release ‘happy hormones’, which feels great and activates your magnificent sexy YOU!.

Here are some flirting tips to ramp up your sex appeal – Ooh La La!!

Tamara’s Hot Summer Flirty Tips For Couples:

  1. Next time you are invited to a BBQ or summer party, show up separately and pretend you don’t know each other. Then, pick each other up. Have fun using pick-up lines like, “Have we met before?” or “What’s your sign?” Laugh and enjoy each other’s company.
  1. Imagine your partner as your favorite dessert. While licking your lips, say to him something like, “Later, I’m going to devour you like my favorite Hot Fudge Sundae!” Scrumptious!
  1. Before coming home from work, get the juices flowing by calling or texting your guy and telling him that you bought “a surprise” or “a naughty gift” that has to be opened… “later.” Wink, wink. Surprise him with a sex toy, edible underwear or a can of whipped cream.
  1. Tell your handsome hunk how delicious he looks, how sexy he is and how he turns you on. More winking!
  1. Be alluring by playing with your jewelry or hair while listening intently to your guy as he’s talking to you.
  1. Get an App for couples. Go ahead and Google “Apps for lovers” and see what’s out there for sexy and fun messaging with your special someone.
  1. Ask questions you don’t normally ask, such as, “What’s your wildest fantasy? I’d like to help you fulfill it.”
  1. Get ‘in the mood’ by giving him a foot rub. This will help lower the energy out of his stinkin’ thinkin’ head (the upper one). At the same time, tell him how much he turns you on or what you plan to do to him after the foot rub. Anticipation is a great way to get the energy flowing in the ‘right’ places.

Tamara’s Hot Summer Flirty Tips For Singles:

  1. At a summer gathering, smile at a guy that’s caught your eye from across the room (or patio), look away then smile at him again. He’ll keep his eyes glued onto you for sure! Keep it up until he walks over to you.
  1. Remember, men are visual and love the adventure of surprise, so on your next date, write a comment on a cocktail napkin and slide it across the table or bar counter right over to him. Make sure you’re smiling while doing this. Extra brownie points for making the gutsy move of winking, as well. What you write could be as simple as, “Nice shirt you’re wearing!” Or, “I’m having fun.”
  1. This one definitely takes guts, but it’s very effective. Let your admiration show by using your eyes to take-in every inch of that hunk you’d like to meet from across the room. With a slight smile and a slow and deliberate gaze, look at his his feet, then knees, slowly moving up to his belly, chest, throat, and finally, his eyes. Once your eyes have locked, broaden your smile, nod your head in approval, and give him a ‘thumbs up’. There will be no doubt in his mind that you like what you see. Not being able to resist you, count the seconds it takes for him to walk over and introduce himself to you.
  1. Can’t go quite that bold, yet? No problem, try this one. Wherever you’re sitting, cross your legs and make sure the foot of your top leg is pointed in the direction of the man you’d like to meet. Bob that foot up and down in his direction, which is letting him know that you are “pointing” at him. His subconscious mind will get the message that you are interested in him.
  1. Spice things up and wear red. There are many shades of red, so pick one that’s perfect for your skin tone. Again, men are visual. Studies show that men find women who wear red as very attractive. Also, show a little skin with a scooped or ‘V’ neckline. Wear a dress and show your legs. Come on! It’s summer, so wear something festive and slightly revealing! Don’t go too far, though. Stay away from that slutty look, unless you’re only interested in a one-night hookup.

This summer, be sizzling and hot by practicing the art of sexy flirting. By all means, have fun while doing it!!

My Exciting Announcement: Evolving Leaders Radio Show!!

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I love how the Universe has my back. Several months ago, I was getting strong communication in my morning meditations about starting a radio show, so that my messages of love could reach more people. As a response, I said, “OK Universe, I hear you, and may this come to me with ease.” Well, it came to me so quickly and with so much ease, I am awestruck.

I belong to an amazing international and spiritually based networking group called Evolutionary Business Council (EBC). These are visionary influencers from around the world that are causing global change for the better. The Founder of EBC reached out to me and asked if I would consider being a host on a brand new radio show sponsored by EBC. Boom! The Universe provided almost instantly. Of course, I gave her, the Founder, a resounding “Yes!”

With four hosts and two guests on each episode, we provide a show that is unique from all others. Evolving Leaders is like The View on TV with a spiritual twist – all while having a ton of fun in the process.

Welcome to Evolving Leaders, the weekly show that takes your dreams and passions from unmanageable to achievable, inspiring you to transform your ideas into reality. Every week, the hosts, all experts in their own field (communication, mindset, business and relationships), bring together visionary influencers from around the world to help you become extraordinary in your business and personal life, and to expand global change. Join us every week and you, too, can set the world on fire.

Please follow us on Twitter @EvolvingLeaders for updates and audio links to all of our shows. You can listen in on the first one by going here.

7 Sacred Flames: How To Be Lucky In Love

I feel like I am one of the luckiest women on this planet. Why? Because I am more in love with my husband than the day we were married 21 years ago. Therefore, I feel lucky in love. Did I always feel that way? Absolutely not. I didn’t get married until I was 36, so I certainly had my share of the dating doldrums, and, I’ll admit it, some pity parties.
So what made me go from dating doldrums to being lucky in love? I’m going to share with you how calling in the Flame Of Cosmic Love turned that around for me.
In my upcoming book 7 Sacred Flames to Transform Your Life: Your Roadmap To Anything You Desire, I briefly describe one of the Universal Laws, the Law of Action: “What materializes in your physical world is a result of your actions. If your actions and behaviors stem from fear, what materializes may disappoint you. If your actions and behaviors stem from love, what materializes may astound you.”
Thank goodness that I eventually recognized that my pity parties (action stemming from fear) were not doing me any good. So I decided to take this Law of Action (an attribute of the Love Flame) and put it into, well, action – a daily practice of gratitude.
Being in the energy of gratitude is one of the fastest ways to get to what you want. To give you a visual, it’s like a gate that opens, giving you complete access to what you desire. Staying in gratitude can sometimes be a challenge. However, calling in the Flame of Cosmic Love is the same as opening up that “gratitude” gate on a daily basis.
This is the Cosmic Love Flame Prayer that I recite at least twice a day: Blaze through me thy radiant Love Rays. Let me be an anchor of love for all. Simple and effective, these two short phrases easily fill me with gratitude and love.
Calling in the Love Flame led me to my soulmate and keeps our love growing stronger everyday. You, too, can call in this Flame and feel lucky in love.
Find out more about my ebook, 7 Sacred Flames to Transform Your Life: Your Daily Roadmap To Anything You Desire in this link!

7 Sacred Flames: Independence From A Life Filled With Struggle

sparklerI used to bumble around in my life, trying to figure things out on my own and wondered why I was a big hot mess. Experiencing one huge struggle after the next, I spent most days feeling out of control. I was deeply influenced by others’ opinions of me. So eager to please, I accepted crumbs from all of my relationships. I hated myself and kept turning to others to give me the love that I wasn’t even willing to give myself.

Today is 4th of July, a U.S. holiday that represents independence. In those days, however, I felt anything but independent or free. In fact, I was in my own jail. Very dependent on others for constant direction and support, my core foundation was weak and easily crumbled at any harsh judgment or unkind word. I believed that my happiness was in the hands of others. It didn’t take much for me to be taken off course by the people and events around me. I even considered suicide, hoping to end the tortuous struggle that was my life.

Then, I found a book that saved my sanity and my life called Lazaris, The Sacred Journey: You And Your Higher Self, published in 1987. This book launched me into self-discovery. There was a particular section in the book that I read over and over. It talked about how we are never alone and that there is a Source energy that is nothing but Love. Because I spent much of my life feeling lonely, reading this was a huge comfort. By invoking this Source-Love energy, I eventually came to realize that life is not just about having things and surviving; it is about having a profound relationship with me and my Highest Self, which in turn, keeps me tuned in to Source.

My personal exploration led me to a daily practice of calling in the Love energies (also known as the 7 Sacred Flames), which completely transformed my life. As a result, I fell in love with me. Once I declared authentic love for myself, it wasn’t long before I met and married my soul mate and had 2 wonderful children. Today, I am also blessed with health and vitality and have a dream career. Now, everyday is Independence Day, filled with freedom and joy.

As a psychotherapist and relationship expert, I have certainly seen my share of people craving freedom from their struggles. Therefore, wanting you to be independent from constant fear, confusion and upset, I created an eBook packed with valuable information about the very same Source-Love energies that lifted me out of my own struggles.


7 Sacred Flames To Transform Your Life: Your Daily Roadmap To Anything You Desire

This eBook will launch July 15th, but you can have it FREE by registering your email in this link

You, too, will make everyday Independence Day! Now, that’s worth celebrating!!

Stay tuned for next week’s blog where I share more exciting information about how the Flames will help you become ‘Lucky In Love’.


7 Powerful Steps To Pull In Mind-Blowing Love

sunset-hairSingle women make finding love very difficult. But, what if it’s as simple as pulling in love? Before I teach you how to do that, let’s first start with an assignment: Grab a piece of paper and write down 3 points of view that you have about love. Don’t write down what you’d like to experience, but rather, what you actually tell yourself about love, men, dating or relationships. Here’s a list of statements I’ve heard plenty of times in my practice over the years. Do you have the same or similar beliefs?

  • There are no great single men. They are either married or gay.
  • I attract men that treat me like dirt.
  • Men can’t commit.
  • I’m too independent for a relationship.
  • No man wants to date a single mother.
  • I’m not dating material because I’m too ___(old, young, fat, thin, poor, rich, etc.)___.

Are these statements hard cold facts? NO! They are just interesting points of view. There’s nothing true about them. You may be believing them and therefore experiencing them, but they certainly don’t have to be true for you.

If your friend said, “There are not enough good men in this world,” can you please see it as a very interesting point of view? In other words, every time you hear information about men, dating, relationships and love, instead of aligning with it, just see it for what it is, an interesting point of view. If you do align with such conclusions, I guarantee that you will experience what you don’t want. Hmmmm… Is that working for?

Ready to hear about an effective process that will help you to release your destructive points of view about love? It means to activate the power of you, which is not overwhelming or controlling another person nor about placing controls on your own life. The ‘power of you’ is about allowing yourself to be all of you without conclusions, points of views and any other limiting thoughts or behaviors. Your power is about you pulling in love by using the unlimited supply of energy that is available 24/7. You have more than enough energy from the Universe to do anything and everything you desire in your life, so let’s do that now and pull in the love that you’ve been dreaming of.

The world functions on energy. The world pays in energy.  Everyone gives and receives as energy. You have an abundance of energy. – Tamara Green

7 Powerful Steps To Pull In Mind-blowing Love

  1. Relax your eyes and pull in love energy toward you. There is an endless supply of energy from the Universe. Just like turning on a light switch, what you’re doing here is simply asking the Universe to turn on the flow of love energy… then feel it coming over and through you like a gentle breeze. Feel the love energy flow to the front of your body; face, torso, legs and arms. Notice that there is plenty of energy available to you when you pull it in.
  2. Pull in love energy to the back of your body; head, back, legs and arms. The Universe loves gifting you with tons of love energy.
  3. Pull in energy to the right side of your body; face, shoulder, arm and leg. Allow this love energy in.
  4. Pull in energy to your left side of your body; face, shoulder, arm and leg. Your job is to receive this love energy. Do not block it with your doubts of whether this is working or not.
  5. Pull in energy up through the bottom of your feet. Have the energy rise up through your legs, torso and head. This is Mother Earth’s energy. Let her loving and healing energy come right in.
  6. Pull energy down from the heavens onto your crown chakra. Have the energy flow down your head, torso, legs and feet. Take in all of this beautiful energy.
  7. Now, feel the energy swirl all around you, through you, from the front through to the back, from the back through to the front, from the right to left, from the left to right. From down below to up above and from up above to down below. You have all of this wonderful love energy at your disposal, to do as you wish. What do you wish to do with all this amazing, healing, expanded and loving energy? How about pull in your beloved? He’s waiting for you to pull him in.

 Tip: Do this process everyday and trust that he will come. Don’t worry about when, where, who or how he’ll show up, but that he’ll show up. For an even more transformative experience, Tamara has created an audio of this process in her 21 Days To Self-Love Meditation Experience bundle. Not only will you attract the man of your dreams, but you’ll fall madly in love with yourself in the process.

Testimonials To 21 Days To Self-Love Meditation Experience

I did the entire 21 days of meditations and actually released bitterness toward my ex and my mother. I feel free for the first time in many years. I am going to do the 21 days again and see what I release this go around. How can I ever thank you for what you’ve done for me? You are a gift Tamara. Love, PJ from California

 Hi Tamara, Thank you for the opportunity for the meditation series and for being so open and kind to share with all of us your spiritual guidance. It has been a wonderful journey each and every day especially with the guided meditations.  You are so appreciated. Love, DR from New York

Tamara, I so value and respect your healing work. The 21 Days To Self-Love Meditation Experience has changed my life in ways I never could’ve imagined. I now believe that not only do I deserve a loving relationship but that I’ll have one. Thank you so much (and keep it coming!), SC from Canada

Not only are the meditations amazing and transforming, but the music takes my soul to a place of bliss and joy. I am now excited to wake up every morning and create my new future. What a blessing you are! From the bottom of my heart, thank you! TN from United Kingdom


Too Independent For A Relationship? 4 Steps to Have it All

runnerAs a Love and Relationship Expert, I am often asked the question, “Tamara, am I too independent to have a long term relationship?” I have been asked this question a number of times throughout the years especially by single women who are well established in their careers and lifestyles. I tell my clients that we first have to get to the underlying fear of being “too independent.”
For example, read this dialogue I had with my client, Joanie:

Tamara: “What don’t you want to happen?”
Joanie: “To lose touch with my friends and family once I get into a relationship, not to mention my precious “me” time. And, I don’t want to give up my training for marathons. But, I also don’t want to die a lonely and loveless woman.”
Tamara: “Is it fair to say that you have a conflict?”
Joanie: “Yes, I guess I do. I don’t believe that I can have both.”
Tamara: “Okay, now what do you want?”
Joanie: “To have both, but I’m afraid that a guy won’t support me in doing these things.”
Tamara: “Interesting belief. Do you know that you actually can have both, as long as you believe that it’s possible?”
Joanie: “How?”
Tamara: “Feel what it feels like to have it now. Actually be in the energy of a woman in love with a man who completely supports her passions.”

I went on to explain to Joanie that placing her attention and focus on what she wants, versus what she fears, is key. It feels good to be focused on what you desire. I gave her the homework assignment of spending the next 48 hours BEING a woman in a great relationship with a man who not only supported her passions, but admired her for them. Joanie decided to go for it, even though she never had evidence of this kind of relationship before in her life. Well, after 48 hours of BEING this woman, she was feeling so good from this exercise that she assigned herself another five days.

Within one week, she met Gene at a networking event, who happened to be a marathon runner. Today, Joanie and Gene are in an exclusive relationship, both enjoying their time together – and apart.

See what happens when you focus on what you truly desire? Magic happens.

4 Steps to Have it All:

  1. Ask yourself what you don’t want.
  2. Get to the opposite of that by asking yourself what you do want.
  3. Feel what it feels like to already have what you want. Be in the energy of having it now.
  4. Be in the state of allowance for having what you desire to come into your life. (note: Have no attachment to a result or outcome of how this shows up, when it happens, who it’s with or under what circumstances. Leave these details to the Universe.)